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People really do have different levels of sensitivity..

Most of us, I'm sure are aware of the saying, "treat others how you wish to be treated" and many other forms of these quotes.

E.g.

Dionne Warwick - I treat others exactly the way I want to be treated.

Well Dionne Warwick, I bet you know that's not enough.

Why?

Let's just say 2 events in the last few days inspired me to write this post.

It's great really that most of us are good at putting ourselves in other person's shoes. Good stuff!

But you have to realize, the levels of sensitivity of each and every individual are different.

Example 1 - Frape!

Ariadne thought it would be funny to frape Cobb's FB by making a status about marriage and so she did it. Don't say she's a bad girl. She did imagine herself being fraped in the same way and she'd be fine with it. In fact, she'd laugh about it since she taught it was quite witty. 

Well, well, when Cobb found out about it, he didn't even laughed. He was offended and enraged about the situation. That wasn't what Ariadne was expecting and she was baffled by the unexpected reaction.

The problem:

Ariadne did put herself in Cobb's shoes but that's not enough. She needs to know how Cobb himself would feel if he was fraped.

Ariadne imagined herself being fraped - GOOD!

Ariadne DIDN'T imagine Cobb being fraped - BAD GIRL!

Example 2 - Leaving your housemate at night

Imagine a house where all the housemates left one of them at home (a temporary one doesn't count).

All of them left without even a FB message, a text on the phone, a notice after praying together.

Now, this is the problem.

All other housemates thought they'd be cool if they themselves were the ones to be left alone at home - GOOD!

All other housemates didn't consider how the one left behind would feel when they leave him - BAD HOUSEMATES!

Hmmm, people do have different levels of sensitivity.

So Dionne Warwick, before we treat others, we have to imagine how the people themselves would feel when we treat them in a certain way..

ESPECIALLY if they are the ones closest to us~

Cause I myself would usually end up hurting those who are close to me.

And that's why I began to pray that I would be more sensitive and to avoid hurting others.

Sebab sangat penting untuk kita jaga hati saudara kita.

And me myself am trying to decode other's feelings...